Why Situationships Hurt, And How Do You Get Past It?

Do you find yourself stuck in a Situationship (also known as Friends-With-Benefits) type situation with a guy? Do you feel mentally hurt by the Situationship? Do you find it frustrating that all your conversations with him revolve around the next booty call? Would you like him to stop treating you like a sex toy? We’ve highlighted four tips to get you past this situationship (if this is your goal!).

Tip #1 – Detach and Forgive 

Often, women get caught up in the “blame game” after a situationship ends. You shouldn’t blame your situation on him, and you shouldn’t try to make his life miserable by punishing him. Simply put, it doesn’t work.


It would be best to forgive him and yourself for getting in such a mess in the first place. When emotions run wild, crazy things happen! Find ways to get away from him, at least for the time being, after you have forgiven him. Seeing your friends, concentrating on your work, talking to other men are all good things. To put it another way, you need to start picking up the pieces.


Tip #2 – Make Use Of The Phone Or Email


According to some people, the best way to end a relationship is through a face-to-face meeting. This isn’t always true, though, because sometimes a face-to-face meeting makes breaking up impossible. Suddenly, you are back in his bedroom, and before you realize it, your emotions are carried away again…


The breakup isn’t a classy affair if it’s over the phone or email, and however, it is still the right thing to do. Situationships are not classy in the first place, are they?


It’s time to call it quits. If you need to do this over email, then feel free to do so.

Tip #3 – Break up cold turkey


If you want to get over a ‘bed buddy,’ you have to go cold turkey. There is no communication at all! Send his clothes back, delete his phone numbers, unfriend him on Facebook. Breaking free completely can only be achieved through this method.


Tip #4 – Allow yourself time to recuperate


You should not enter into another relationship as soon as you break up with your Situationship situation. Take some time to breathe and heal. It will take some time to adjust to a new life — a life that invites commitment-minded men into your life.

For how long? Ideally, you should give yourself two or three months. There’s no doubt he’ll try to change your mind, so it will take a while before he gives up. This will also likely give your Situationship ‘friend’ something to think about. If you feel a genuine connection and want to turn your ‘situation’ into a relationship, then you may want to check this out! Good luck!:)


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